How to Forgive Someone

We’ve all heard the saying, “You have to forgive, but you don’t have to forget.” I won’t refute that, but you have to agree that a lot of people use that excuse to never ‘really’ forgive at all. Are you one of those people?

Let’s rephrase it a little. “You have to forgive…and you have to forget the anger, the pain, the anxiety, and everything else that comes with someone sinning against you. But you don’t have to make yourself a target (even though Jesus did).” Sound a little more difficult? This is really the Christian way of life, and it’s going to be difficult. No one promised you would enjoy it.

So we’ll start with the forgiveness. This is where you have the most control, because it’s an act of will. You have to decide to forgive, and then do it. Here’s a short list of what this involves:

•No more daydreaming about your perpetrator’s pain and suffering.

•Stop thinking about the ‘what if’ outcomes, and accept what happened.

•Start praying for the person. Not for their punishment, not for them to see the light…pray for their good and their soul. Say a simple Hail Mary, without meditating on the one you’re praying for. Meditate on the words, and dedicate it to your perpetrator. Let God decide how to reward or punish them.

•If you can do something nice for the person, do it without grumbling and without reminding them of what they did wrong.

•Stop gossiping about them.

•Every time you find yourself thinking about it, change the subject. Think about the starving kids in China, your financial problems, Baby Jesus…anything.

Now that (believe it or not) is the easy part. Now it comes time to deal with the anger and pain. Sometimes it’s easy. But in cases of serious violation, or when someone hurts a loved one, the very idea sounds idiotic. And no, you’ll never completely let go, but you can completely try. And you can start by using some of the techniques listed above.

You’ll probably have to take it further. You’ll have to swallow those emotions. Bury them deep. Yes, I’m going against what every therapist out there is preaching, but talking and sulking is no way to get over anything. You’ve had your period of pity; it’s time to move on. When you feel the flame of anger building inside you, force it to the back of your mind, and let it die. Don’t waste another second of your life stewing. It’ll take practice, but every day is another chance.

Finally, there’s that last part. This is where most of us have trouble. This is also where we have to weigh our duties, and choose what’s most important. Here are a few questions to help you sort it out:

•Does it involve someone under your protection? I’m talking mainly to parents. Our children obviously come first, and we’re never obligated to put them in danger.

•Does it involve a sexual violation? I don’t have to go into this. If someone isn’t treating your body like a Temple of Christ, then stay away from them.

•Does it involve injury? The big question here is ‘How much’? A school boy shouldn’t offer himself out to the wedgie bully, but a pop in the arm is usually more a matter of humiliation than personal injury. If your body is being harmed by someone, you have a right to stop them…but again, Christ didn’t. Also, consider how likely the person is to harm you again. If it was a one-time event, you should let go. On a side note: Repeated domestic violence has several victims, especially children. And track records show that very few offenders ‘only strike once.’ If you’re trying to figure out whether or not to leave such a situation, stoop thinking and get out.

•Does it involve personal property? Who’s property? If you’re raising a family, you can’t risk everything and ignore their needs. But ask yourself if the amount stolen or damaged property is worth the hassle of never trusting someone again.

•Does it invol4AEve your good name? Hunker down and forget about it. The truth will set you free. Lies hurt the liar more than anyone else. If it’s the truth, then just be more careful of what you say…but don’t withhold something begrudgingly.

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Copyright Infringement Lawsuits

Affect Individuals And Businesses
By: Richard Cunningham




A copyright infringement lawsuit can occur for any number of reasons: someone using a song in a podcast or radio program, a writer “borrowing” information from another work, copying video or mp3 off the Internet without permission (or sometimes, even to another CD or DVD). Copyright infringement lawsuits are not generally brought to the average person, unless they’re downloading a LOT of music or movies, but usually for large operations: software pirates reselling goods on eBay or to some other unsuspecting victim, someone “sampling” a song to make another, or maybe a person reselling mp3s online.

When you understand the implications of it, copyright infringement lawsuits aren’t frivolous as some people think. For the most part, the average person’s familiarity with a copyright infringement lawsuit is taking down copyrighted material after receiving a nasty email.

If you use works from record albums by major recording stars (like Britney Spears or 50 Cent) to make a different recording as your own, then you can be sued for copyright infringement. Usually these suits will be lost because it’s rather hard to prove inspiration, but they are rather costly and draining, especially if there isn’t a large backing legal team.

Copyright infringement lawsuits for large enterprises can be costly and time consuming. If you work for someone, and you plagiarize someone on the company blog, the whole company can be sued, and you can be fired, for that infraction. Another large copyright infringement lawsuit is the eminent MySpace v. Universal Music Group, who is claiming that MySpace is knowingly committing copyright infringement by allowing users to upload copyrighted material. Even then, Universal Music Group has been negotiating with MySpace and couldn’t come to an agreement -- then they filed suit.

Universal Music Group has an agreement with YouTube, where YouTube agrees to follow Universal’s rules. It’s worked out well thus far, and I think with an agreement in place “user created content” will retain a destination on the Internet.

This is a testament we all need to be with social networking sites and ‘user created content.’ We need to watch ourselves, because many times we may not realize the veracity of our actions.

Sometimes, people break copyright laws on purpose. There is a huge market for pirated software -- from Windows to Photoshop to The Sims. It’s very easy to share peer-to-peer, and because of that, people can resell pirated copies for a high price -- all profit. Or they’ll download MP3 and resell them; or eBooks. People who resell these items get nasty penalties -- with both copyright infringement lawsuits and criminal cases. They’ll pay a hefty fine and go to jail.

Copyright infringement lawsuits can affect any one of us -- from our friends on MySpace to our employer, to the computer geek down the street. It’s easy to violate copyrights, and you have to watch yourself. The chances are good that you won’t be involved in a major copyright infringement lawsuit, but you still need to ensure you’re following copyright laws.

Copyright infringement lawsuits are important to determine what is, and isn’t, applicable to copyright laws. Because of these lawsuits, our laws have changed regarding Fair Use, Internet use, and the Electronic Frontier Foundation and CreativeCommons.com. The lawsuits help us to understand what is, and what isn’t fair -- and these organizations have helped the masses to understand what’s so important about copyright, and why we need to defend our freedom of speech.



About The Author

Richard Cunningham is a freelance journalist who covers copyright law for http://www.ResearchCopyright.com.

5 Tips on How to Avoid a False DUI Breathalyzer Result

By: Lawrence Taylor



Let's say you had a drink or two but don't feel you are under the influence of alcohol. However, you are arrested on suspicion of drunk driving and offered the choice of taking a breath or blood test (or, in some states, urine). Most DUI suspects choose the breath test -- a choice which could doom your chances to prove your innocence. Consider the following advice when deciding which test to take:

1. If you smoke cigarettes, you may want to pass on that Breathalyzer mouthpiece the officer is handing you. Scientific research has shown that smoking can raise the test result considerably -- enough to get you charged and convicted of drunk driving. This is because most breath analyzing devices will falsely report acetaldehyde as alcohol. Acetaldehyde is a compound produced in the liver in small amounts as a by-product in the metabolism of alcohol. However, scientists have found acetaldehyde concentrations in the lungs of smokers are far greater than for non-smokers. ("Origin of Breath Acetaldehyde During Ethanol Oxidation: Effect of Long-Term Cigarette Smoking", 100 Journal of Laboratory Clinical Medicine 908). Translated: because breathalyzers can’t tell the difference between alcohol and acetaldehyde, cigarette smokers will have a higher blood-alcohol reading.

2. If you are a diabetic with possible low blood sugar, you should also avoid the breath test. A well-documented by-product of hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) is a state called ketoacidosis, which causes the production of acetone -- and acetone, like acetaldehyde, will be reported by the Brethalyzer as alcohol. In other words, the Breathalyzer will read significant levels of alcohol on a diabetic’s breath where there may be little or none. See "Diabetes, Breath Acetone and Breathalyzer Accuracy: A Case Study", 9(1) Alcohol, Drugs and Driving (1993). To make matters worse, the reactions of a person in the early stages of a diabetic attack include dizziness, blurred vision, slurred speech, weakness, loss of coordination and confusion -- the same symptoms which the patrol officer is looking for: the clear signs of a person under the influence of alcohol. And the officer's observations are quickly followed by a failing performance on DUI field sobriety tests.

3. Are you on a low-carb diet? Or had nothing to eat in quite awhile? Avoid the Breathalyzer in a DUI investigation -- for the same reasons stated in number 2. Perfectly normal, healthy individuals can experience temporary conditions of low blood sugar after consuming small amounts of alcohol, resulting in exaggerated but false symptoms of intoxication. Fasting glycemia can exist where a person has not eaten in 24 hours or has been on a low-carbohydrate diet. Production of glucose in the liver is stopped while the alcohol is broken down. Result: the blood sugar level will drop, affecting the central nervous system -- and producing symptoms of a person under the influence of alcohol and a higher breath test result.

4. If you have acid reflux or have burped or belched before taking the Breathalyzer, offer to provide a blood sample instead. The reason is that you will be breathing alcohol from your stomach into your throat and oral cavity, where it will stay for 20 minutes or so -- to be breathed directly into the breath machine. This is not a good thing. The machine's computer is multiplying the amount of alcohol in the breath sample by 2100 times to provide a reading of the alcohol in the blood. This is because it assumes the sample came from the lungs, not the stomach, and the average person has 2100 units of alcohol in his blood for every unit of alcohol in his breath (called the partition ratio). The Breathalyzer does not "know" that your breath sample is not from your lungs and that it should not multiply the alcohol level by anything. Result: false high readings -- and a DUI conviction.

5. When you see that officer in the rear-view mirror, don't reach for the mouthwash or breath spray to disguise the drink or two you've had. Most of them contain significant levels of alcohol (Listerine, for example is 27% alcohol) and create a mouth alcohol effect: they remain in the oral cavity for 20 minutes or so -- just long enough to be breathed into the Breathalyzer, with the same results mentioned in number 4. Some breath machines have a mouth alcohol detector, but these are highly unreliable.

About The Author


Lawrence Taylor is the senior member of an AV-rated law firm of Las Vegas DUI lawyers practicing drunk driving defense exclusively. See http://www.duilasvegas.com / for more information.

Car Accident Lawyers Advice

When Should You Instruct A Car Accident Lawyer
by: Daniel Richards


If you want to file for a claim through a car accident lawyer, you must, of course, be involved in a car accident and have experienced some injuries. You don’t really need to be a driver in order to file a car accident claim. You can be the driver, a cyclist, a pedestrian or a passenger and also those who have been injured due to negligence and recklessness caused by the person operating the car. If you have been hit by a car on the road, you must get a car accident lawyer because they specialize in car cases solely.

Of course the main criteria for filing for a claim is your involvement in a car accident. Injuries will add to the claim that you have filed. If you have been bruised and bumped, you may use that as strong evidence that you have been in a car accident. If you experienced injuries, you must take pictures of them so that the lawyer can present it as proof any injuries you sustained as a result of the accident.

If you have experienced more than bruises and scratches, like losing a leg or a part of your body, then you need to instruct your lawyer and make sure that you find the best lawyer in town because your case is not easy to handle. You will require hospitalization and you cannot make a claim with that kind of situation. You will need an accident lawyer to prepare all the information and details needed to present to the court.

The car accident lawyer will be responsible for the investigation and gathering of all documents you need in order to get your compensation. Some people who have been in an accident do not consult lawyers because they think that they will just hinder their case. However, it is in the lawyers interest for you to win the case so they will be working hard on your behalf.

A car accident lawyer is necessary for serious incidents in order to find out who was at fault in the accident by studying the case carefully and applying all the rules and regulations for car accidents and driving.

In consulting a lawyer, you need to be fast so the responses will be fast. It is necessary to consult a lawyer after the incident has just happened. You will have a limited time to prepare.

If you know that you are not the one at fault, don’t think twice about consulting your lawyer. He knows better how to handle and deal with the issues properly and accurately. Of course, if you are not the one at fault, the lawyer must use any strategy he can to prove your innocence.

Don’t hesitate to call your car accident lawyer if anything goes wrong. This will lessen your burden in getting the claim that is rightfully yours.

About The Author


Daniel Richards has an interest in Cars, Autos & Vehicles. To access more articles on dealing with car accidents http://www.itcaraccident.com or for additional information and resources visit this car accidents

How To File A Report In Case Of A Car Accident

by: Daniel Richards



If you have been in a car accident, you must immediately file a report to your insurance company. Accidents have been increasing but some people do not have enough knowledge on how to deal with these cases the right way. You may have encountered an accident or you may just be part of the accident. Either way, you should know what to do after the accident has happened.

If you witnessed a car accident, the first thing you should do is to seek aid for the injured. After the ambulance has arrived or first aid has been provided, you should call the police and state what happened. You should answer all questions given by the police officer. Make sure that your answers are correct because the details given are written on a report, which will be used for assessing the case. All information given to the police officer must be accurate so that the fault will not be used against you.

In making a report, make sure that you don’t change your statements after every court proceeding or investigation. The police officer may ask you questions about the case repeatedly. Make sure that you don’t change your statements because it will not match with the previous story. You can do this simply by telling the truth.

Also make sure that you don’t leave out any information.

If a police officer is not present, you can take down important details yourself so you will not forget it later. When the police officer is present, you can present your notes and report and he will further investigate. In making your report, you should include the specific time, location, area, position and you can also ask for witnesses to back up the accident scene.

People in the accident area may be very curious about what happened. If they ask for information, you should not share it with them especially your notes. You must first present it to the police so that the information is safe. If you spread the information, there might be inaccurate reports and some people might disseminate wrong information which will make the case puzzling.

Make sure that you stay on the scene after the accident has happened. If you leave the scene, there might be complications that will make the case very confusing. If you have been involved in a hit and run, try and get down the license number of the other vehicle.

If you have a camera with you or a camera cell phone, take some photos of the accident. This can provide strong proof and evidence which can be very helpful.

If you have a car accident, you need to know how to deal with it so you can make a report completely and have all required information for both the police and your insurance company.



About The Author

Daniel Richards has an interest in Cars, Autos & Vehicles. To access more articles on filing reports for car accidents or for additional information and resources visit this car accident related website: http://www.doadvice.com/ http://caraccidentattorney1.blogspot.com/

Residential Alcohol Treatment Can Help Control Drinking

If you get a feeling that you hit the bottle too often and too much, and are unable to control the drinking habit, and if you want to do something about it, then you must seriously consider enrolling in a residential alcohol treatment course. Most residential alcohol treatment programs can help those who can't stay away from alcohol to give up on the habit and can't stay clean. One big morale booster that the program offers is that you would be amidst people who, like you, are determined to stay away from alcohol. Plus, there are counselors too, who give you their professional advice and guide through each stage of the process; food and stay are included.

The counselors give you valuable tips on how to stay clean once you are through with the program. Enrolling on these programs may be either prescribed or voluntary – courts may recommend these programs to someone who's committed any type of alcohol-related charge, while some people join them because they feel they need help.

Self-Help: How To Go About It

If you wish to rid yourself of this alcohol problem on your own, then you must seek out a residential alcohol treatment program around your vicinity or futher away depending on your discretion. If it's the cost that is inhibiting you, then you can always check with an insurance company and find out if they have plans that cover these programs – you must know that many insurance companies do cover these treatments. When you check-in, you will be familiarized with the surroundings and the schedules (meal times, activities, meetings, etc.) of the facility. The activities are built and designed to ensure that you stay away from the bottle by indulging in other wholesome pastimes that keep you engrossed so much that you do not have the time to think about drinking.

About The Activities

Most residential alcohol treatment courses clue you on to mind-stimulating activities that help you stay clean. Majority of these activities are group-oriented. In these group activities, you will find yourself partnering with other fellow inmates with the same goal – to stay away from drinking. The activities comprise of role-playing or story-telling sessions and they boost your morale and make you think that you are not alone while dealing with this problem. For example, when you are through with the program and feel the urge to drink, it will help to recall an experience you have had or a story you have heard at the residential alcohol treatment facility. Such a story or experience will give you the necessary strength and willpower to stay clean.

Most residential alcohol treatment programs can really help you in kicking that vile habit of drinking heavily. Once you have completed the treatment, you will find it easier to lean away from alcohol and you will also wonder why you ever couldn't give it up earlier.

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Gaining Self Confidence In 3 Easy Steps

Believe it or not but gaining self confidence is much easier then you think. Some people seem to have self confidence naturally but the truth is that they acquired it. Since they acquired, it means that you can acquire it as well. You just have to know how to get it. Here are 3 easy steps in gaining self confidence.

1. Start small.

Gaining self confidence is best learned by starting out with the small things. For instance, if you have a hard time introducing yourself to people start with just saying hello. This is what I started out doing to build my self confidence. Don’t worry about trying to converse with them. Just say hi. After a while this will become easy and then it’s time to go on to a small conversation. Just start small and increase from there.

2. Write a list of all your qualities.

It’s very easy to overlook your own qualities because you are so focused on all your perceived weaknesses. Write down as many as you can think of. Once you have done this, go to someone that is close to you and ask them to help you add to the list. They will tell you qualities about yourself that you didn’t even realize you had. Now the key here is to just write down what they say and don’t argue with them if you disagree. After you have this list completed, read it out loud everyday and reinforce in your own mind that you have loads of qualities to be self confident about.

3. Don’t let your mind be your worst enemy.

Gaining self confidence can be as simple as stopping your mind from thinking of all the things that could go wrong. What about all the things that could go right? If you let your thoughts run wild you will almost always give in to the worst of what you mind can come up with. Learn to control your thoughts and you will instantly see that you self confidence will increase.

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